Ugh Dan Savage.
Also, this is an actual thing he said:
"We’ve covered this before, but apparently it’s a gong that needs to be struck every few years: A state of implied consent exists in healthy, long-term sexual relationships. I can, for example, initiate sex with my boyfriend of 12 years in the middle of the night without shaking him until he’s wide awake and then obtaining his verbal consent. "
Actually no, this type “implied” consent is a dangerous idea.
More reasons why Dan Savage is on my Hate List.
“Listen Up, Cover Up”
I know a lot of people, especially someone close to me, that was a victim of sexual harassment and where I come from, that is the norm. It’s a constant struggle for women to go about their daily lives, especially since we’re constantly being blamed for not “covering up” and “showing skin” even though it happens when we’re fully clothed. But that’s not an excuse. I expressed how I felt through this short spoken word piece. Thanks for watching.
and just try getting any decent latin@ films streaming from netflix—they know we’re willing to pay, mm.
damn. this is so true, this is like, very much a huge pasttime in our family despite the lack of representation. i was excited just to take my great uncle benji to see After Earth and he was so happy to see little white centrality. his eyes lit up with intrigue the whole time, it was wonderful.
These statistics are very important:
Across the 100 top-grossing films of 2012, Latinos (who constitute 17 percent of the U.S.) are the most underrepresented group, with only 4.2 percent of speaking roles, according to the study.
And yet Latinos, on average, attended 9.5 movies in 2012, more than Asian (6.5 movies), African-American (6.3) and white audiences (6.1), according toNielson’s market research. In terms ofmovie tickets sold in 2012, whites (78 percent of the U.S.) bought 56 percent of them, and Latinos (17 percent of the U.S.) bought 26
Note that Latinos, Asians, and African Americans go to the movies more often than white folks, even though we are less likely to be featured in those movies…
This guy stopped watching porn — and he wants you to know why. Gender activist Ran Gavrieli felt that most of the images he saw in porn encouraged negative, even violent, attitudes toward women, despite a recent wave of feminist porn. So he pulled the plug, and found that his personal sex life and private fantasies became much more fulfilling.
In his talk at TEDxJaffa, he advocates for physically and emotionally-safe sex, as well as erotica that shows a wider range of fulfilling sexual experiences — including the intimacy of human connection, laughter, and touch. Watch his talk here.
This reminds me of the GQ article I read about never looking at porn or stopping yourself and I now know why it felt lacking. It never really addressed these issues about porn.
The next question is whether or not porn could be more positive.
Someone doesnt listen to music
It you’re referring to the guy then it’s possible that either he doesn’t notice (you’d be surprised how many don’t) or that he chooses not to listen to it.
As for me, I agree there are music that can positive towards sex though I wonder since it’s auditory and not always a visual experience if it affects us as much as say a music video.
Im saying music is just as sexually exploiting as any porn these days
Oh yes, it can be.
Thinking about it, maybe it’s not so much the medium as so much our own societal standards. Everyone says porn degrades but that porn had to come from something from our society. The more I think about, the more I think that some porn comes from the idea that women are meant to be dominated.
Another thing is how do LGBT individuals fit in regards to porn?
not to advertise or anything for queer porn that doesn’t fit into these heinous models of subjugation and abuse Crash Pad is a great resource in addition to mention that there are (sadly) tiny sections of mega porn sites that often referred to as “women friendly” that basically just means even though they are still filmed from the mostly male perspective there’s some vague notion of what a woman would consider enjoyable and don’t have outright abuse themes. As usual support independent media for progressive porn alternatives.