I am absolutely SICKENED by the images of police assaulting unarmed American civilians simply engaged in exercising their right to freedom of speech and assembly. It makes me sad to the core of my being to see this kind of highly organized violence against non-violent people by police in the United States of America.
As a University police officer, I likely would not be in a position to engage anyone as part of a ‘Riot Squad’. But even so, I share a bond with police of all stripes, and my inability to understand these actions leaves me at a great loss. I can’t imagine ever taking up arms against an unarmed peaceful citizen.
If I was guy i’m pretty sure i’d be a rapist or something. It’s no wonder women hate themselves so.
Cop show after cop show. Guy standing over naked dead woman. GRIM’s promo poster is exactly that.There are never any lady cop’s standing over naked guys going “He sustained fifty cuts and excessive force is indicated by the heavy bruising- there is also evidence of rape.” I KNOW that there is an aspect of reality to cop shows but sci/fi fantasy stuff can kiss my ass, no excuses.
If there are any women on any show in any position of authority it is always relational.
There are a handful of shows now a days that have kick ass women, but only if they are alone when a male villain is present.
I call it conditional badassery. She can beat up like 5 guys at once by herself but if the male protagoniost is arrives suddenly she gets knocked out or sucker punched or something, as if she just forgot how to fight in the presence of other male protagonists.
There’s never any rescuing of the guys by other guys either! I just finished watching a show there are no strong female leads (that’s not my point today) but the male protagonist is always saving women. In the latest episode the he had to help a guy, but unlike all of the other episodes in which there was physical rescuing involved e.x. saving from drowning, or digging out of graves. There was none of that, the male was never physically removed from any danger and the guy died!
It was almost as if the show was literally saying I’d rather die than be emasculated. Guys can’t even save other guys anymore, jeezus.
It’s insane i heard salt which looked crappy, but i never saw - but the book anyways had a scene where in one instance salt > ya know the main fucking character was supposed to save her male counter part or something but the directors removed it to avoid emasculation.
The very idea that a guy getting rescued by a female is emasculating is insulting to begin with.
We’re cops, we’re soldiers, we are firemen (yes i use men, i like the term - it comes from HUMAN get over it, the wo is a qualifier for the type of human you are) so your going to have to get saved okay GET THE FUCK OVER IT. It doesn’t make you weak it makes her badass!
And guess what! I’ve seen it in person. A guy gets saved by a girl his head doesn’t explode, he doesn’t feel ashamed, he says HOLY SHIT I COULD HAVE DIED THANK YOU.
These are the people who run our media, who are supposed to educate us, tell us the truth, they are our leaders.They represent the government as some evil. Watching the daily show on the 27th. Now Andrew Napolitano is a bit of a character but this pervasiveness of our corporate overlords is……..draining. He talks about how the free market i.e. corporations are the best at blahity blah, so forth. Jon Stewart counters with “why does health care suck”. Napolitano says if they’re wasn’t so much regulation our health care would be awesome- never mind the fact that every western country in the world has a functioning of not thriving national health care system in place.
Napolitano said the hospitals would be as plentiful and as cheap as starbucks. Jon pauses but not for the reason he should have.
Starbucks is expensive.
The people that run the show- that control all the shit that represent us and others and give us our view of the world. They are rich people and no matter how awesome Jon Stewart is, because of the fact that he’s rich he will always have to make an effort to remember to say that It costs 5$ for a medium coffee.
Lifted some cuddle party rules, for guys that might be a bit confused or gals who might be a bit too quiet
OR no means no maybe probably also means no
1. You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. (Be as specific in your request as you can.
This is always a good rule but of course it doesn’t have to be verbal, I know sometimes it takes the fun out of it to talk but the key rule here is to be specific about your requests and get a green light- this requires honesty and talking about naughty bits, you can turn it into a game- use a porn rule- narration, say exactly what you want (in a sexy voice lol)
A while back ago bill maher did a segment on how a college made a rule that redefined rape by basically saying if you didn’t get the verbal OK for each sexual act you engage in you could be charged. Though that rule may have been extreme and could result in some serious problems for – well everybody, the spirit of the law was the same. You need specific permission not general permission.
Fair grounds analogy: you may get in, but you need tickets for each ride.
And the thing the audience and bill seemed to be stuck on and have an uncomfortable icky feeling was- again- talking about the naughty bits. Saying [I’ve had fun having my tongue down your throat now can I please move on to fondling your breasts] everybody laughed. We have to start being comfortable asking for what we want.
If you’re a yes, say YES. If you’re a no, say NO
If you’re a maybe, say NO.
Women have a hard time with this one and it appears to be due to some serious socialization, there are things to remember
-just because you did it before and you may want to do it again doesn’t mean you have to do it right now
-just because you think they are cool and you like them you feel obligated
Women need to learn how to say no and men need to recognize the difference between a yes and the absence of a no.
I just reblogged an earlier article from a guy who made a good traffic analogy. I will shorten it to say. Red Stop. Green Go. Yellow- isn’t always speed up before it hits red.
You are encouraged to change your mind.
Respect your relationship agreements and communicate with your partner.
This is a common argument for many things - not just slutwalking -in that those who engage in said activities are being naive or are unrealistic in their expectations about (in this case) male behavior toward partially dressed women.
An obvious counter point being that there are plenty of women who don’t dress “slutty” in the slut walks, you have seen some rather haunting signs such as “I was wearing a over sized sweat suit, was I asking for it?”
Of coursethat is not the point of the slutwalks the point is that you shouldn’t be attacked because of your clothing, even if your dressed like a “whore”. I bring the previous paragraph up to make my point.
You are absolutely right it is extremely naive and unrealistic to expect not to be harassed when wearing revealing clothing. That is our point. Or to put it another way.
We are trying to change the way things are now, the only way to do that is to demand the improbable, demand respect, because we deserve it, no matter what we wear. The only way to get it, is to do things like this. We have to make people think about our message, it has to become weird for a guy to harass a woman on the street, even if it is common place now.
You can’t do that by going “what do you expect you were dressed like a whore!”, which by the way, there is no whores dress code they look like every other woman on this planet. They were suits, shorts, skirts, pants, some even wear burqa’s.
I am not going to go into the morality of sex workers in this posting. What i am saying is the obvious.
Women are treated poorly in “slutty” clothing or otherwise, they will never stop being treated poorly until we dismantle the excuses that are given. Is it realistic- of course not. Is it naive? No more navie then those who have asked for civil rights in the past. It was ridiculous back then for [insert minority here] to be treated with respect, but they demanded it. Some are still fighting, some have won their battles.
They did it because they had a right to it. Because when violence is commonplace what else can you do but demand the impossible? Demand that it be unacceptable for women to be verbally and or physically harassed on a near daily basis. What else would you have us do?
How can you ask us to censor ourselves because of others lack of self control. It’s one thing to be cautious in dangerous situations. But if you live in constant danger to the point where your freedoms are restricted, you remove the dangers, you do not shrink to appease them in hopes that they will go away.
When the violence is directed towards you. What else can you do. Dressing modestly will not save you, only standing up to those who perpetuate violence will. I refuse to live in a world where it is seen as a ridiculous request when a woman asked not to be harassed. Not without doing something about it.