docu-series on poly in true lisa ling style
can i just say for the record how proud i am that
even though revenge only features monogamous relationships
all the voice overs for the last episode were about forming a “union” not a pair or some other similar bond it was just about people being drawn to other people
e.x. it could have easily said on many occasions
"when one person is drawn to another" - but it never did
If that’s the case why are the animals closest to humans like some monkeys mostly polyamorous while animals closest to dinosaurs like some birds monogamous? Welp actually some researches argue that most logical form of coupling to engage in is sexual promiscuity for the diversification of the gene pool and social pair bonds for stability of offspring rearing…..so yea.
…………….Why exactly? (seriously you can’t just say that you have to actually at least push a theory) Safety reasons? One night stands don’t have to be at a strangers house, they could be at YOUR house. Or *gasp* at a sex party. If you WANT to have anonymous sex, or a fucking train/orgy/gang bang for that matter that’d up to nobody but you. Only having sex with people you know does not raise your self esteem. The increasing number of people you sleep with will not lower your self esteem. Judging people by how many dicks are in them? Stay Classy.
Well obviously. But you just equated stupid with slut and the studies are already fucking in on that one okay! People who have more sexual partners are engage in SAFER sex practices than those who have less. We get tested more. We use protection more- we even communicate more, cause we know better, because we have all the sex all the time (practice makes perfect). Slut behavior is =/= cheating behavior.
Believe it or not people have different body parts and different definitions of sex
Bad decisions do not equal slut decisions but yea be a fellow vagina partner
Remember you are cool regardless of whether you choose to “hook up” with one dude or “the whole hokey team” because the cool part is you made the choice
We want to be clear that we are not taking this personally but this shit (slut shaming) is a perpetuation of rape culture and is dangerous, especially coming from other women.
Beaver had June and Ward. Ricky had Ozzie and Harriet. Mom and Dad, same-sex couples or blended families, California law is clear: No more than two legal parents per child. When adults fight over parenthood, a judge must decide which two have that right and responsibility – but that could end soon. State Sen. Mark Leno is pushing legislation to allow a child to have multiple parents. “The bill brings California into the 21st century, recognizing that there are more than Ozzie and Harriet families today,” the San Francisco Democrat said. Surrogate births, same-sex parenthood and assisted reproduction are changing society by creating new possibilities for nontraditional households and relationships. Benjamin Lopez, legislative analyst for the Traditional Values Coalition, blasted Leno’s bill as a new attempt to “revamp, redefine and muddy the waters” of family structure by a leader in the drive to legalize gay marriage. “It comes as no surprise that he would try to say that a child has more than two parents – that’s absurd,” said Lopez, whose group calls itself a leading voice for Bible-based values. Under Leno’s bill, if three or more people who acted as parents could not agree on custody, visitation and child support, a judge could split those things up among them. SB 1476 is not meant to expand the definition of who can qualify as a parent, only to eliminate the limit of two per child. Under current law, a parent can be a man who signs a voluntary declaration of paternity, for example. It also can be a man who was married and living with a child’s mother, or who took a baby into his home and represented the infant as his own. Leno’s bill, which has passed the Senate and is now in the Assembly, would apply equally to men or women, and to straight or gay couples.
re: in a previous post i made the argument (and got into some tumblr fights) that bdsm and poly have legitimate claims to the word queer -mostly based on rights as a citizen
bdsm being on the fault line comparatively gay marriage is not legal (everywhere) ———-poly is a federal offense most everywhere
it also isn’t illegal to practice the act of being gay (in US)
—-you can’t adopt kids in some states/ poly’s can’t adopt kids in any states. there is legalized discrimination against both
whereas bdsm is illegal most everywhere (in US) and you can fuckin go to jail for being kinky your own house - the DA can press charges without a complaining witness if they don’t agree with your lifestyle (the rule is on the books to weed out domestic abuse cases & to put away bad guys with scared spouses but it is used against kinksters a lot)
and the fact that they are objectively more outside of the main stream i.e. queer
—-by objectively i mean setting people on fire for funnzies is weirder for most people than same sex attraction
and i stand by by thoughts (rights are rights, like i said being on both sides of the issue i feel less of an outsider and more secure in my rights as a citizen being in a same sex relationship than i do being in a hetero poly and/or kinky one)
However i neglected to mention that bdsm/kink is a privileged fucking identity/activity
we do what we do and hand make our floggers out of old bike tires and frayed computer cables but shit is PRIVILEGED no doubt
i don’t think it in any way takes away from the bsdm community’s equal need to be in the closet, fear of being outed and probably lies somewhere around
well-off cis white gay males in the community as far as status and queerness
this is fuzzy and after i turn in the paper (and nap) i will clean it up
pt: kink has a crap ton of privilege (money) but i would still label them under queer i do not think those are mutually exclusive there are levels and degrees of privilege in different areas of life
the poly/open ppl that reblogged and did the survey so far, it is really important
i got a very quick response from some folks whom i now LOVE
so much love
if we can have actual scientific data on out community we can get resources and ya know civil rights and all those good things the “normal people” get because unless we have statistics or data we remain inVISIBLE to the law or anyone else.
also people thesis paper’s are riding on this - speaking as a person who is currently in the middle of hers, lol.
if you know more people not on tumblr let them know and pass it along
again thank you so much
Thanks in part to your support, the Loving More Polyamory and Marriage
research survey Jasmine posted about on February 16 is doing very well.
However, in looking over the responses to date, we are seeing
under-representation of younger polys and also polys parenting minor
children. These groups are very important to us and we are asking one
final time for your help in encouraging members of your lists to take
the survey, with special emphasis on these groups.
Please post this as widely as possible, as having quality research on
our community is an important early step to winning respect and
tolerance for our relationship choices.